About Empowering Young Mums

Empowering young mums is just that ‘Empowering Young Mums’.  A majority of young mums (not all) usually come from upbringings with either domestic violence, sexual abuse, having no mother in their lives or in my case the whole three scenarios.  What then usually happens is the young women end up getting involved in a domestic violent relationship and becoming pregnant before they are even 18 years old.  The baby then grows up and the whole cycle is repeated again until someone takes action to put a stop to this cycle of domestic violence.  I decided to be one of the few women to take action and put a stop to this abuse and show my children a happy healthy lifestyle.  I want other young mums to experience this fantastic life.

How did Empowering Young Mums Start?

Empowering Young Mums was ‘thought of’ after I had just got myself and my three children out of a domestic violent relationship.  I was having problems with my son who was 12 years old at the time and had to resign from my dream job.  As I had worked for many years I found myself un-employed and knew I had to take action to find a way that I could still work but also be there and support my children going through this tough time. 

I had just started working on our Signs’n’Banners business, did some research and googled for some information on young mums that were in business, (I am a huge fan of networking) and was hoping there may have been a group that could provide a networking opportunity for me to attend regularly.   I came across many women business groups, however as I had just recently come out of a terrible relationship my self-esteem was at an all time low and I found myself extremely intimidated by the older women.  As soon as I mentioned my children the next question would always be “oh and how old are your children”?  I would tell them the ages and 99% of the time I would get a comment like “oh my god you look like a baby yourself”, or “gee you don’t look old enough to have one let alone three children”.  At the time I felt so embarrassed and judged, I now realise that these people are not saying this to me to judge me but because they admire my determination.   Now when people say these comments to me, after having a fantastic counsellor-(Donna) who helped me work on my self-esteem, I take those comments as fantastic compliments.

It was then I realised after speaking with many young mums that they too felt judged as young mums and it only affected me when I had a low self-esteem.  Now that I am free from feeling judged I wanted to help other young mums build up their self-esteems and not worry what other people think- I love this saying (what other people say about me is none of my business).  The three main areas I had to work on to get me to where I am now were breaking away from domestic violence, build up my self-esteem once again, and follow my passion of running my own business.  I am now enjoying attending regular networking functions with all age men/women and absolutely loving it.  I have been free from domestic violence now for two years and have a great relationship with my partner, my self-esteem is growing stronger each and every day, our business is heading in the absolute right direction and my children are so much happier. My life is where I visioned it to be two years ago, simply because I took action to achieve this.  I have great visions for my future and I know I will succeed in them.

I did eventually take action on my ‘thought’ of creating ‘empowering young mums’ and that is how my website was born.  I now want to help empower other young mums to firstly recognise the effects domestic violence has on their children, take action to put a stop to the cycle, empower them to find their self-esteems again, and to take action to live a happy healthy family life and follow their passions.